The Welcome Matt

By Matt Lasley mlasley@civitasmedia.com

March 12, 2014

I believe everything in our lives happens for a reason.

I had lunch with a handful of my closest friends from my high school days this past weekend, and about halfway through our bowl of nacho chips, our conversation turned to the last time we’d seen each other.

In 2008, during the summer following my graduation from high school, the four of us were inseparable. As college inched ever closer, we seemed to cling to each other tighter and tighter, excited for the changes that awaited us but also concerned about what we might lose.

I remember many of those summer days with the unique brand of clarity that comes with being young and full of wonder.

I took in everything: the warm days spent at the Nolin Lake when we jumped off 15-feet-high ledges into the water or buried each other up to our necks in the sand; the late night trips to E-town, Owensboro, and Bowling Green to catch a movie or walk through the park on the riverfront; the hours spent in the bed of Stephen’s truck looking up at the stars.

Time seemed like it would never run short then.

Fast forward to 2014, and all four of us have not been in the same room together since 2008. Don’t mistake that for a falling out. While we had issues like anyone else, more so than anything else, life came between us.

There’s no preparing for what life has in store for you. The path of adulthood is different for everyone, and over six years, lives undergo drastic changes.

I moved to Owensboro to study journalism at Brescia, which ultimately led me back home and to The Grayson County News-Gazette. And the other three have taken on careers and the people with whom they hope to spend the rest of their lives.

As the saying goes, “God laughs while you make plans.”

But this is not a sad story.

Life has a funny way of pulling people apart, but it also has a way of bringing them back together. We couldn’t have become the people we are had we not let go of one another for those years - and there were full years when we didn’t see each other - but when we were ready, we found each other again. True friendships outlast time and space.

We may not have nearly as much time to spend with one another as we used to, but that only makes the time we do have together all the more special and more important than ever that we stay in contact.

Don’t be discouraged if life pulls you and your friends in different directions. If the care for one another is there, you’ll find each other again.